“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt,” once wrote William Shakespeare. Fear of the outcome leads to automatic rejection from every opportunity we want. Years, decades will pass and you will look back and torturously wonder “what if.” The culprit? Anxiety — it rejects…
“So the last shall be first, and the first last: for many be called, but few chosen (Matt. 20:16).” The blessed apostles who served God and not mammon were penniless, persecuted, imprisoned, Lazarus the greedy rich man burned while the beggar was carried to Abraham’s bosom, Jesus overthrew the moneychangers from the church and fed…
Anxiety is fueled by our negative perception, it quenches its ravenous appetite by telling us no before we even try, wraps it’s neurotic branches around our legs and paralyzes us. Anxiety denies us friendships before people have, it denies us opportunities before the jobs, admissions, internships, and clubs do. It denies us experiences in fear of the worst. Paralyzed, you live in fear of the worst instead of in hope of the best. Thereby creating a negative-feedback loop in which by protecting yourself from failure you protect yourself from happiness and an epic love, an epic career, and greatness. Here’s to combating your anxiety and low-self esteem.
Rejected before anyone has said no, shut out before the door has closed, paralyzed with fear before the threat exists. You are being lied to. Manipulated, gaslit, and humiliated — all by your own doing — with vitriol you wouldn’t dare think of others, others who don’t think of you enough to do to you,…
The arrival fallacy is blocking your happiness. You were twelve and couldn’t wait to be sixteen and in high school. You were sixteen and couldn’t wait to be nineteen in college, finally out on your own. You were 19 and couldn’t wait to be 21. Graduated, first drink in hand, the unguided adult responsibilities hit…
“You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.” — Margaret Atwood History wasn’t changed through physical beauty. Imagine the world we’d live in if Joan of Arc, Marie Curie, Florence Nightingale, Margaret Hamilton, and Rosa Parks spent their days preoccupied with beauty ideals of their day and…
Humans aren’t perfectly rational agents that make choices that maximize utility, when faced with risky choices that could lead to big gains, people are risk-averse, preferring to settle for choices that result in lower utility but higher certainty. While loss-aversion is beneficial in many situations, heuristics and personal biases cause us to miscalculate the probability…
Many of our problems are caused when we attach our identity to emotions and thereby, accept their conflating thoughts as fact. Emotions are meant to be felt and released, not identified with. The more we build limiting identities around ephemeral responses to external factors, the more we lose the true self by painting a limiting…
If you protect yourself from the possibility of failure, you protect yourself from success. This is why the growth mindset — backed by neuroscientific research — is the number one determinant of success. Accepting that a learning curve and failure is part of the journey towards mastery and success, not innate ability, is what makes…
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right,” Henry Ford once said. Doubt really is often the only dream killer. The only difference between those who do, and those who don’t, is the presence of self-doubt. There’s no inherent super-ability or extraordinary intelligence behind everyone’s success, but rather, self-responsibility and…
Our thoughts control our reality. They influence how we feel, how we act, and vice versa in a big feedback loop. This is why it’s important to internalize the following: you are not your negative thoughts. Anxious and depressive thoughts create an unreliable narrator that filter your world view through negativity. They make you view…
Procrastination isn’t laziness, it’s the fear of failure. Ending the tendency to procrastinate requires a mindset shift that turns into a habit when the fear of doing nothing exceeds the fear of doing it badly. Challenging perfectionism, embracing a learning curve, and detaching your value from your performance is the key to getting started. After…
“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt,” once wrote William Shakespeare. Fear of the outcome leads to automatic rejection from every opportunity we want. Years, decades will pass and you will look back and torturously wonder “what if.” The culprit? Anxiety — it rejects…
“So the last shall be first, and the first last: for many be called, but few chosen (Matt. 20:16).” The blessed apostles who served God and not mammon were penniless, persecuted, imprisoned, Lazarus the greedy rich man burned while the beggar was carried to Abraham’s bosom, Jesus overthrew the moneychangers from the church and fed…
With, wholesome hilarity, plenty of heart, and edifying lessons, the unsurpassed sitcom Boy Meets World raised a generation of 90s kids. Laugh-out-loud funny yet wholesome, it managed to root itself in the real world and its many adversities by organically packing valuable, relatable life lessons into each episode through the wisdom of Mr. Feeny. As…
Anxiety is fueled by our negative perception, it quenches its ravenous appetite by telling us no before we even try, wraps it’s neurotic branches around our legs and paralyzes us. Anxiety denies us friendships before people have, it denies us opportunities before the jobs, admissions, internships, and clubs do. It denies us experiences in fear of the worst. Paralyzed, you live in fear of the worst instead of in hope of the best. Thereby creating a negative-feedback loop in which by protecting yourself from failure you protect yourself from happiness and an epic love, an epic career, and greatness. Here’s to combating your anxiety and low-self esteem.
Born on the brink of a century, Generation Z is more “anxious, distrustful and downright miserable” than previous generations. We grew up through the 9/11 era, too young to understand the threat of foreign and domestic terror we’d live under, the Orwellian era of “Big Brother” we were being raised in, the adapting to catastrophic climate…
As a recent high school graduate it was just a month ago that I was doing some last minute cramming for AP tests (no not finals I didn’t study for those..) and I can now effectively say that I’ve developed a solid study routine. I know, what a thing to think about over the summer…
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